This is probably the hardest post I will ever make, but here we go… It’s been six years since my last serious relationship, and at first I thought I was okay with that. Well lately I’ve been yearning to find someone to spend the rest of my life with. It’s that empty feeling, I feel sometimes. “Hard to face though” Now don’t get me wrong, I’ve gone on dates, but it never amounted to anything. Through this time, it has allowed me to work on me, so I can be the best I can be to my future King! I don’t want a man just for the sake of saying I have a man. My goal is, and has always been to have a man that will complete me.
In my quest for working on me I have also refrain from sexual intimacy. I know what you may be thinking, six years is a very long time, and OH it REALLY is. Well I suppose I put more focus on other things in my life that make me happy, and time just flew by. Trust me, I would love the opportunity to have the kind of intimacy that doesn’t end with my clothes off though. That’s very hard to find these days. I refuse to compromise myself just for that moment. I was asked by a friend don’t you like sex, my answer was of course I do. But… there is more to life than just the act itself. Can you Stimulate my mind?
As I look back on how long it’s been, I said know way it’s been that long (trust me it really has) where did the time go. However, I don’t want to wait another six years. But, when I think about it, I have zero tolerance for BS with men. Side note: it just might end up being another six years, but I hope not. Most of the men, I’ve come across lately don’t want to take the time to get to know you. What’s up with that?? I have people say you attract what you give out, what does that really mean? I carry myself like a lady, that deserves and want more.
The fact that I haven’t been in a relationship has also brought me closer to God, and the love I have for him is one that can’t be shaken. I pray daily, but I don’t ask God to send me a man. When it’s my time, it will happen and only then. Being single and alone doesn’t have to be a death sentence. I know that’s a hard pill to swallow, especially when you may see so many of your friends in successful relationships. And who likes being a third wheel, or the only single person at gatherings? So guess what, I will just continue attended events that don’t require a date. Now at the end of the day, I would be lying if I didn’t say I was a bit envious of those in happy relationship, but my time will come. Am I the only person left in this world thats single, I do feel that way sometime. You just never know what your friends or others have gone through that got them to that level of happiness. Focusing on YOU is key!
As adults we have to make hard choices, and that means looking deep inside yourself to re-evaluate and regroup. I’m loving the WOMAN I’m becoming in this time though, and my King will love me too. In the end, I don’t need a lot to make me happy. So in essence, I do have a very fulfilling relationship, and it’s with the almighty God, he never lets me down. He accepts me with my flaws and all. He doesn’t judge me. He loves me unconditionally. He brings me the joy that I need, not what I want. I have always had faith, and believed in God, but during this time my relationship with him has truly evolved.
If you are facing a similar situation, take this time to mediate and pray and know you are not alone. I say to all Women, don’t compromise who you are to be with a man just to say you have a man. YOU deserve more, and who doesn’t love a great love story. And always remember, being alone doesn’t mean lonely.
Until next time, have a great day!
Happy Wednesday Everyone!
I’m coming to you to share these oh so cute embroidered jeans. Because what kind of friend would I be if I kept them all to myself. As always, doing a bit of shopping online, and was instantly drawn to the detail on the jeans. They were Gloria Vanderbilt and I hadn’t worn any of her jeans since high school. I only wished that I had sized down one, they were a little big. Nonetheless I wasn’t going to waste time sending them back. However; the colors in the jeans, I knew would be a perfect match with my burgundy cold shoulder top. These jeans would look great with a pair of sneakers, I opted to wear booties and I loved the overall look. My navy floppy hat brought the entire outfit together. Don’t you get that 70’s vibe when you see floppy hats, I know I do. These jeans are a statement piece all by themselves, that’s why any top would look great with them. So what are you waiting for get out there and get you a pair!
Sunnies: Francescas (old)
Friday was day full of fun and excitement. I did a little Fall shopping, and that always seem to get me excited. I just wish Houston would get the memo on Fall, so I can finally wear some of my finds. JCPenney Fall line is one I can really get into, starting with the dress I’m wearing today. The fact that burgundy is a must Fall color, had me feeling some type of way. The color is so vibrant and rich. I think it’s one of the main reasons I fell in love with this dress.
I opted to wear my burgundy mules, and how cute is my burgundy bag. Didn’t I tell you I love this color… Also I knew my rose gold necklace would be a perfect addition, and finally my three toned Austin earrings completed the look, and your girl was ready. Until next time have a great day!
Neckace and Bracelets: Old
Just stopping in to share this cute colorblock dress. In my opinion, black and white is always such classic colors. A LBD can be so practical, and mix in the white it takes the entire style up a notch. This dress is definitely a must have. The design of the front of the dress really had me feeling girly, I’m not sure why. Don’t judge me though! Check out that cold shoulder though, doesn’t it just give the dress a bit of an edge.
The fit of the dress was spot on. Swing dresses always seem to fit my body type. Gave me just enough room to flow with ease. I paired it with my fuchsia heels, to add a Pop of color to the look. Remember adding a little color to an outfit is always a great thing. Don’t be scared! Everyone has their own unique fashion, so where what makes you happy. That’s how I decide what outfits I will wear daily. Now don’t get me wrong, I love trendy clothes, but sometime thinking outside the box is okay.
My black bag, and black and white earrings completed my look, and your girl was ready to start her day. Didn’t do any shopping, something I always seem to do on my off days. It was a very low key day, just a little lunch. I hope you all had a phenomenal day. Until next time.
Hugs and Kisses!
Necklace and bag: Sam Moon